{"id":17881,"date":"2014-12-25T13:00:15","date_gmt":"2014-12-25T09:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.zerdab.com\/?p=17881"},"modified":"2014-12-25T19:37:11","modified_gmt":"2014-12-25T15:37:11","slug":"haradasan-ata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zerdab.com\/?p=17881","title":{"rendered":"Haradasan, ata?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n\n\n
\"u\u015faq\"<\/a>\u201cXan\u0131m q\u0131z xalas\u0131na, igid o\u011flan da day\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0259k\u0259r\u201d m\u0259s\u0259li g\u00fcnd\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda tez-tez i\u015fl\u0259ns\u0259 d\u0259, h\u0259yat q\u0131z\u0131n xan\u0131ml\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, o\u011flan\u0131n igidliyinin m\u0259hz ail\u0259d\u0259, normal ata-ana himay\u0259sind\u0259 formala\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
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\u00a0Elmi ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar, sosial t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r do\u011fumdan ba\u015flay\u0131b, yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131nda ana il\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131, atan\u0131n da m\u00fch\u00fcm pay\u0131 oldu\u011funu isbat edir. Ail\u0259si il\u0259 yax\u0131ndan bir d\u00f6vl\u0259t ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 kimi maraqlanan atalar\u0131n yan\u0131nda b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259lim-t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00fcst\u0259qil h\u0259yat\u0131nda ciddi probleml\u0259ri olmur. Atan\u0131n t\u0259siri g\u00fccl\u00fc olan ail\u0259d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n o\u011flan \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq,\u00a0 ki\u015fi xarakterin\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nir, yolda\u015fa, m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259trafdak\u0131lara qar\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini d\u0259rk ed\u0259r\u0259k davran\u0131r. D\u0259rsl\u0259rind\u0259 qazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 u\u011furlar, insanlar\u0131n r\u0259\u011fb\u0259ti onlar\u0131n kamil bir v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015f kimi yeti\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Bu c\u00fcr ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n q\u0131zlar da \u0259sl xan\u0131m modelini anas\u0131n\u0131n, ki\u015fi modelini \u00f6z atas\u0131n\u0131n n\u00fcmun\u0259sind\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr, ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131ndan ail\u0259nin n\u0259 dem\u0259k oldu\u011funu, ail\u0259d\u0259 ata v\u0259 anan\u0131n v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259rini \u00f6yr\u0259nir, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259yata inamla haz\u0131rlan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin rolu dan\u0131lmazd\u0131r. \u018ftraf\u0131, d\u00fcnyan\u0131 g\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6z\u0259llik yaratma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131q. H\u0259zr\u0259ti M\u00f6vlanan\u0131n dediyi kimi: \u201cD\u00fcnyada tikan \u0259k\u0259n ki\u015fi, sak\u0131n \u0259kdiyin tikan\u0131 g\u00fcl ba\u011f\u00e7as\u0131nda arama!\u201d Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259 des\u0259k, qanqal bec\u0259rib ondan b\u0259n\u00f6v\u015f\u0259 qoxusu g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259k olmaz ki!<\/p>\n

T\u0259kc\u0259 fiziki bax\u0131mdan deyil, m\u0259n\u0259vi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n d\u0259 sa\u011flam valideynl\u0259r d\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fl\u00fc, kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r intellektual s\u0259viyy\u0259li g\u0259ncl\u0259r yeti\u015fdirm\u0259kl\u0259 h\u0259m \u00f6zl\u0259rinin, h\u0259m v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00f6lk\u0259nin, b\u00fct\u00f6vl\u00fckd\u0259 d\u00fcnyan\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xt, rahat g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yini t\u0259min etmi\u015f, \u00f6z v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015fl\u0131q borcunu \u00f6d\u0259mi\u015f olurlar. \u015eairimiz M\u0259mm\u0259d \u0130smay\u0131l\u0131n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi:<\/p>\n

… M\u0259n d\u00fcnyaya ata, ana borcluyam,<\/p>\n

\u00dcnvan\u0131m var, bu \u00fcnvana borcluyam…<\/p>\n

B\u0259li, h\u0259r \u00f6vlad ail\u0259nin bu d\u00fcnyaya insanl\u0131q borcudur. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 b\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rin bu borcu layiqinc\u0259 \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259yin f\u0259rqind\u0259 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, b\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n birt\u0259r\u0259fli t\u0259sir alt\u0131nda b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fckl\u0259rini, onlar\u0131n h\u0259m ail\u0259d\u0259, h\u0259m d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 probleml\u0259r yaratd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u015fahidi oluruq. H\u0259zr\u0259ti M\u00f6vlan\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6z m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini d\u0259rind\u0259n d\u0259rk etm\u0259yin \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259ti haqq\u0131nda g\u00f6z\u0259l bir hekay\u0259tl\u0259 s\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 q\u00fcvv\u0259t ver\u0259k burada. Ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sini d\u00fczg\u00fcn quranlar oxuyub feyzyab olsun, o biril\u0259ri d\u0259 ibr\u0259t als\u0131nlar: \u201c\u00d6m\u0259r zaman\u0131nda oruc ay\u0131 g\u0259ldi. Bir ne\u00e7\u0259 n\u0259f\u0259r bir da\u011f\u0131n t\u0259p\u0259sin\u0259 qa\u00e7d\u0131. Oruc ay\u0131n\u0131n hilal\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcb \u015f\u0259nl\u0259nm\u0259k, onu xeyr\u0259 yozmaq ist\u0259yirdil\u0259r. Birisi:<\/p>\n

– Ey \u00d6m\u0259r, odur hilal, – dedi.<\/p>\n

\u00d6m\u0259r g\u00f6y \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 baxsa da, ay\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259 bilm\u0259di.<\/p>\n

– Bu ay s\u0259nin x\u0259yal\u0131ndan meydana g\u0259ldi. Yoxsa m\u0259n g\u00f6yl\u0259ri s\u0259nd\u0259n daha yax\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m. T\u0259rt\u0259miz hilal\u0131 nec\u0259 olur ki g\u00f6rm\u0259yim? \u018flini islat, qa\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sil. Ondan sonra hilala bax! – dedi.<\/p>\n

Adam \u0259lini islad\u0131b qa\u015f\u0131n\u0131 silinc\u0259 ay\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259di:<\/p>\n

– Padi\u015fah\u0131m, ay g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259z oldu,- dedi.<\/p>\n

\u00d6m\u0259r dedi:<\/p>\n

– B\u0259li, qa\u015f\u0131n\u0131n t\u00fck\u00fc s\u0259ni \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259l\u0259ndirdi, yaydan s\u0259n\u0259 bir ox atd\u0131. G\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn yolunu bir \u0259yri t\u00fck k\u0259sdi, o \u00fczd\u0259n ay\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm dey\u0259 davaya qalxd\u0131. Bir \u0259yri q\u0131l g\u00f6y \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 p\u0259rd\u0259 olursa, b\u00fct\u00fcn v\u00fccudun \u0259yri olunca hal\u0131n nec\u0259 olar?<\/p>\n

\u018fsl insan h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259 do\u011fru-d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 bu, g\u00f6z\u00fcn g\u00f6rm\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259tini \u00e7a\u015fd\u0131ran bir q\u0131l q\u0259d\u0259r bel\u0259 yolverilm\u0259z olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

T\u0259dqiqatlar ata v\u0259 anan\u0131n \u00f6z \u00f6vladlar\u0131ndan imtina etm\u0259sinin u\u015faqlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na, emosional durumuna v\u0259 \u0259qli inki\u015faf\u0131na da m\u0259nfi t\u0259sirini t\u0259sdiql\u0259yir. Lakin atan\u0131n ail\u0259d\u0259n uzaqla\u015fmas\u0131 daha ac\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r verir. M\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcm baba olsam da, h\u0259rd\u0259n atam\u0131n n\u0259sih\u0259tl\u0259ri yad\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc \u00e7ox rahat hiss edir\u0259m.<\/p>\n

Qon\u015fular\u0131mdan biri o\u011flunu evl\u0259ndirir. Bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra g\u0259nc ail\u0259 ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ax\u015famlar ev\u0259 gec g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Ata anas\u0131 vasit\u0259si il\u0259 o\u011fluna \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rma\u011f\u0131 ismar\u0131\u015f ets\u0259 d\u0259, al\u0131nm\u0131r. Bir ax\u015fam da ata yun \u00e7ubu\u011funu g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcb ev\u0259 gec g\u0259l\u0259n o\u011flunu o ki var \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131r. O\u011ful ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr ki, evl\u0259nm\u0259kl\u0259 ata-ana m\u0259suliyy\u0259tind\u0259n boyun qa\u00e7\u0131rmaq olmaz.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259d\u0259 valideyn n\u0259zar\u0259ti o dem\u0259k deyil ki, ata he\u00e7 vaxt ail\u0259sind\u0259n ayr\u0131la bilm\u0259z. Ana i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259yib, ancaq u\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si il\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olmal\u0131d\u0131r. N\u00f6vb\u0259li i\u015fi il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dar olaraq b\u0259zi atalar m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u00fcdd\u0259t ail\u0259sind\u0259n ayr\u0131lmal\u0131 olur. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin normal quruldu\u011fu ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259t orada b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sin\u0259 he\u00e7 c\u00fcr mane\u0259 ola bilmir. \u018fksin\u0259, u\u015faqlar\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini art\u0131r\u0131r. Yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00e7oxu\u015faql\u0131 bir ail\u0259nin b\u00f6y\u00fck o\u011flu \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n ki\u00e7ik ne\u00e7\u0259 bac\u0131-qarda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb yeti\u015fm\u0259sind\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259llim v\u0259 tibb bac\u0131s\u0131 olan valideynl\u0259ri q\u0259d\u0259r z\u0259hm\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kirdi. \u0130ndi i\u015fl\u0259dikl\u0259rini b\u0259han\u0259 g\u0259tir\u0259r\u0259k bir v\u0259 ya iki u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r ail\u0259 tan\u0131y\u0131r\u0131q. 1941-1945-ci ill\u0259r m\u00fcharib\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faqlar atas\u0131z b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb, \u00e7ox layiqli v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015flar olublar. Onlar\u0131n ataya b\u0259rab\u0259r, ki\u015fi xarakterli analar\u0131 olub. O d\u00f6vr\u00fcn analar\u0131 qarovul\u00e7u da olublar, ot, \u0259kin d\u0259 bi\u00e7ibl\u0259r, t\u0259s\u0259rr\u00fcfat da idar\u0259 edibl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 i\u015fi il\u0259 deyil, v\u0259rdi\u015fi il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dar olaraq, ail\u0259sin\u0259 soyuq m\u00fcnasib\u0259t b\u0259sl\u0259y\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r h\u0259m \u00f6zl\u0259ri, h\u0259m d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn problem olan u\u015faqlar\u0131n yeti\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 arzuolunmaz m\u00fcnbit \u015f\u0259rait yarad\u0131rlar. \u015e\u0259h\u0259r bir yana, k\u0259ndd\u0259 bel\u0259, gec\u0259d\u0259n xeyli ke\u00e7mi\u015f\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r gec\u0259 klublar\u0131na b\u0259nz\u0259r m\u00fcxt\u0259lif \u201cxan\u0259\u201dl\u0259rd\u0259 vaxt\u0131n\u0131 israf ed\u0259n, sakit k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259l\u0259ri eyb\u0259c\u0259r s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259ri, q\u0259hq\u0259h\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 dolduran g\u0259nc atalar ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sin\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcsb\u0259t t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bil\u0259r? Ail\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n da yax\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 ata, ana olacaqlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcns\u0259k, onlar\u0131n h\u0259yata nec\u0259 haz\u0131rland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr etm\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tin deyil.<\/p>\n

Ata-anan\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n uzaq olduqda bel\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rimiz\u0259 ciddi fikir ver\u0259rdik. G\u00fcman ed\u0259rdik ki, qu\u015flar bel\u0259 haqq\u0131m\u0131zda valideynl\u0259rimiz\u0259 m\u0259lumat ver\u0259c\u0259k. \u0130ndi evin i\u00e7ind\u0259c\u0259 valideyn bilmir ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131 kiml\u0259rl\u0259 z\u0259ngl\u0259\u015fir, \u0259n \u00e7ox hans\u0131 saytlara girir. Bir d\u0259 x\u0259b\u0259r tutur ki, u\u015faq ya evd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131b, ya da hans\u0131sa bir cinay\u0259tin i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 olub.<\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011fa s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verm\u0259k onu \u00f6zba\u015f\u0131na buraxmaq deyil. Ail\u0259d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n u\u015fa\u011fa valideynl\u0259r, ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131, ictimaiyy\u0259t qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 borclar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fa salaraq s\u0259rb\u0259stliy\u0259 al\u0131\u015fd\u0131rmaq v\u0259 onu s\u0259rb\u0259stliyin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn d\u0259 daha b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259suliyy\u0259t oldu\u011funa inand\u0131rmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Burada da ata v\u0259 anan\u0131n ail\u0259daxili etimada, inama \u0259saslanan s\u0259rb\u0259stliyi g\u0259nc \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti m\u00fcsb\u0259t istiqam\u0259t\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ld\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Valideynl\u0259r, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 d\u0259 atalar \u00f6z n\u00fcmun\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259yata haz\u0131rlay\u0131rlar. N\u0259yin yax\u015f\u0131, n\u0259yin pis oldu\u011funu v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015f kimi insanlarla m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 hans\u0131 meyarlar\u0131 g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259k laz\u0131m g\u0259ldiyini atalar \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259ri \u0259sas\u0131nda kitab v\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259n daha yax\u015f\u0131 ba\u015fa sal\u0131rlar. Ata u\u015faqlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259m d\u0259 \u015f\u00f6vq, h\u0259yat e\u015fqi m\u0259nb\u0259yidir. H\u0259r \u015feyi g\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6r\u0259n, h\u0259yatdan, insanlarla m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259n z\u00f6vq alma\u011f\u0131 bacaran valideynl\u0259rin u\u015faqlar\u0131 da f\u0259r\u0259hli olur, nikbin b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcrl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

G\u0259ncliyimd\u0259, u\u015faqlar\u0131n ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131nda qon\u015fu Digah k\u0259ndind\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259llim i\u015fl\u0259yirdim. Nahar vaxt\u0131 m\u0259d\u0259m \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259km\u0259sin dey\u0259 h\u0259rd\u0259n r\u0259hm\u0259tlik anam \u00e7antama bi\u015firdiyi bozlamac \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259yinin aras\u0131na motal pendiri doldurub d\u00fcrm\u0259k qoyard\u0131. \u0130nan\u0131n, iki n\u00f6vb\u0259 aras\u0131 o d\u00fcrm\u0259yi d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n l\u0259ziz yem\u0259yi kimi yey\u0259rdim. \u0130\u015fd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra s\u00fcfr\u0259y\u0259 \u0259yl\u0259\u015f\u0259r, b\u00f6y\u00fck i\u015ftaha il\u0259 yem\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayard\u0131m. U\u015faqlar da oturub m\u0259ni seyr ed\u0259rdil\u0259r. Onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 x\u00f6r\u0259k \u00e7\u0259kilm\u0259sini ist\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m, anam bir az \u0259vv\u0259l birlikd\u0259 yeyib-i\u00e7dikl\u0259rini dey\u0259rdil\u0259r. M\u0259n israr ed\u0259nd\u0259 u\u015faqlara da yem\u0259k \u00e7\u0259k\u0259rdil\u0259r. U\u015faqlar el\u0259 yey\u0259rdil\u0259r ki, ana v\u0259 n\u0259n\u0259 mat qalard\u0131lar. M\u0259nim acg\u00f6zl\u00fckl\u0259 yem\u0259yim onlar\u0131n i\u015ftahas\u0131n\u0131 itil\u0259y\u0259rdi.<\/p>\n

G\u00f6z\u0259l \u0259m\u0259l sahibi olan valideynl\u0259r \u0259n sad\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259ri il\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n q\u00fcrur m\u0259nb\u0259yidir. Biz\u0259 d\u0259rs dey\u0259n m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259rd\u0259n r\u0259hm\u0259tlik C\u00f6vh\u0259r\u0259t m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259 dey\u0259rdi ki, atas\u0131 onu s\u00fcp\u00fcrg\u0259 sataraq qazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 pulla oxudub. Haz\u0131rda h\u0259yatda olan m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259miz Z\u0259rif\u0259 xan\u0131m deyirdi ki, atas\u0131 onu balta il\u0259 tir yonaraq qazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 pulla oxudub.<\/p>\n

He\u00e7 k\u0259s\u0259 sirr deyil ki, atan\u0131n i\u015fi u\u015faqlar\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcb, t\u0259hsil verib, evl\u0259ndirm\u0259kl\u0259 bitmi\u015f hesab olunmur. Onun m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6m\u00fcr boyunca davam edir. T\u0259l\u0259bkarl\u0131qla yana\u015f\u0131, \u0259dal\u0259t, h\u00f6rm\u0259t, sevgi il\u0259 cilalanm\u0131\u015f ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin hakim oldu\u011fu ail\u0259d\u0259n dili, \u0259m\u0259li il\u0259 k\u00f6n\u00fcll\u0259r\u0259 f\u0259r\u0259h, m\u0259mnunluq g\u0259tir\u0259n v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015flar yeti\u015fir. H\u0259yat h\u0259r \u00fcz\u00fc il\u0259 bunu s\u00fcbut edir.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 h\u0259m d\u0259 Allah\u0131n says\u0131z-hesabs\u0131z nem\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n biridir. Onun q\u0259drini bilm\u0259k, bir ail\u0259nin atas\u0131 v\u0259 ya anas\u0131 olmaq l\u00fctf\u00fcn\u0259 \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr etm\u0259k Uca Yaradan qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda insanl\u0131q borcumuzdur.<\/p>\n

Rahib Alpanl\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n

Allah h\u0259r birimiz\u0259 ail\u0259mizin \u0259sl sahibi olma\u011f\u0131 n\u0259sib el\u0259sin. Ail\u0259mizin h\u0259r bir \u00fczv\u00fcn\u0259 kifay\u0259t vaxt ay\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259bir v\u0259 ist\u0259k versin. Allah\u0131n q\u0259d\u0259r-qism\u0259ti istisna, he\u00e7 bir u\u015faq atas\u0131 ola-ola:- \u201cAta, haradasan?\u201d – dem\u0259sin. Amin!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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